Monthly Archives: April 2013

No gatecrashing..

It’s quite a common sight in Singapore to see 5-7 fully grown men stand outside a random house early on a Saturday morning, drinking weird concoctions of wasabi and bitter gourd juice, dancing to stupidly choreographed moves, performing almost impossible yoga positions and giving in to all the demands of screaming girls behind the gate. All this while either dressed in pristine suites or wacky Halloween-worthy costumes.


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This my foreign friends/readers.. is called gatecrashing.

The whole ritual is to test how determined the groom and his ‘wing-men’ are that they would do anything to get the bride (who is, at this point, in her dressing room listening to the commotion outside..) It also symbolises that the bride is not exactly very ‘easy’ to get.. Eventually when some red packets are passed around the bridesmaid are happy, they will let the men in but before the groom enters and see his bride, he needs to stand outside her room door and declare his love for her, as well as surrender the hoards of cash that will be hers to shop with when they are finally married.

It’s all fun and games till someone throws up or tensions arise when there’s no money to be given to demanding bridesmaids.

But that’s not the reason why I’m not doing the gatecrashing.. I’m not doing the gate crashing because I want M to see me and my dress for the first time as I walk down that aisle in Church. That’s also the reason why I haven’t done a pre-wedding shoot! The dress is top secret!

In Singapore, most couples get their ‘first look’ 4 months before the wedding.. When they take their pre-wedding pictures, most brides already have their wedding dress prepped and fitted .. Which may not lose the magic effect to them but for me.. that super important.
We did decide to do a morning letter to each other. A letter written a few weeks before the wedding will be passed to the best man and maid of honour till the morning of the wedding. He will get the read my letter as he prepares to see me in church, and I will do the same.
Letter is in draft right now!

Invites out! RSVP to come in soon…

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The waiting game.

58 days to go

I try to not panic. Try not to think about the limited period of time get all the issues sorted out, wedding as well as marrage related. Now the concerns aren’t really how the whole wedding will turn out like and more on how my marriage will turn out like. Thoughts are more likely to grown deeper and more solemn and I think of the many changes that will happen.

But… that’s not what this blog is about. So I shall stick to topic for those who are waiting on any update from me.

With exactly 2 months to go, all my invites are sent out and hopefully, well received. People have only said lovely things about my DIY doily envelopes and that’s made my hard work all worth it. 🙂

I’m toying with the idea of getting a videographer for the actual day.. M and I have saved up for quite enough and have a little extra so why not go for a video of our day! My budget is 1 to 1.2K. Some of the quotes I’ve seen definitely fit my bill and next week I’ll be meeting up with 1 vendor, Fotowerk.

Other than that.. I think everything is going to plan. Need to confirm guest list next month, go for my second fitting and get more sleep so these eye bags disappear.

In the mean time.. here are more pictures of my dream dress, Inez Di Santos ‘Lissome’ which my personal dress is styled after.. 🙂


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Preparation Pictures

Preparation Pictures


My bed has officially become my wedding shelf and it’s a mess with all the invitation sorting done on it.

A day out to Chinatown’s market last Sunday and I came back with a beautiful paper cut double ‘Xie’ that is almost mandatory in the bride’s home. This medium sized one cost me $12.50

Ang baos! Well, they are not exactly ‘Ang’ (red) but they were the only one’s that were tasteful and simple and pretty enough for me. They can be found at China Town market @ $1.5 for 5 packets.  Need to come up with a list of recipients soon.


Invitation woes

65 days to go. Oh my god. When did the 3 digits become 2?

Best time to give out wedding invitations are 6 – 8  weeks before the wedding. 9 weeks best for those out of the country. I’ve mailed off 3 overseas ones already – BFF and Boyfriend, Aunty Pat in Canberra and Uncle Denny in Melbourne.

20th onwards would be the time for me to start scrambling to give the rest of them out the Singapore citizens. Those whose addresses I have, I will mail out. Those whom I don’t, I’ll hand deliver. Having 180 guests makes it very easy I suppose, there are less then 100 cards I have to give out because of the family relation. I did a cheat move though; I am going to send them to the grandparents house. Their children will eventually visit them and then they’ll get the card.

Lazy strategy? I prefer the word smart.

Parents (under grandparents pressure) are trying to slot people into the dinner. People whom I haven’t seen since I still wore a school uniform. Naturally, I’m quite hesitant about these strangers. They may be family but I have no clue how to start any conversation with them.

I’m trying to put my foot down about who I want at the wedding, they need to be people whom I know and I can talk to. Not some far off cousin’s wife friends father, but obviously it’s proving very hard when my grandma, whom I adore, wants them there.

There must be a ton of you brides out there, initially strong headed and all prepped to be unwavering in your guest list decisions, but once your granny says please… you go weak at the knees. What did you do in the end? I’m keep my stance till there is a empty space at the table somewhere, then mayyyybe they’ll make it into the guest list. 

Keeping my cool like a boss bride,



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Lace Illusion Necklines

Lace Illusion Necklines

Illusion necklines are my drug on a slow day at work.

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Filing a notice of marriage

A few weeks ago, M and I filed our notice for marriage online. You have fill it up at least 21 days before the solemnisation date and it’s then valid for 3 months. The (arduous) task was a 5 page long form that we had to fill up together. It required information like your name, NRIC, occupation, level of education age as well as witnesses name and age.

It wasn’t too difficult to finally pay the administrtion fee of $26, but the browser decided to give us problems everytime we finished the whole form. I had to refill all the pages 4 times before I got through to the payment page.

BIG TIP: Do not, I repeat, do not hit the back button to check on or edit something. If you made a mistake, CLOSE the browser and start again. If you don’t, you’ll just follow through the whole form only to find that nothing was captured cause you hit the back button.


$26 has to be paid (whats new?) for administration then you do nothing until you appointment date which is 3 days before your wedding. We collect the certs and produce verification and all should be good from then on.

Invites are hopefully printed by now. Sis is suppose to get them done..




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My Fitting at Silhouette Atelier

I am in love. 

Truly and utterly. Deeply and passionately. 

My dress is complete. 

I can’t show pictures because I’m keeping true to the whole (unnecessary) tradition of the groom not seeing the bride till she floats down the church aisle like a perfect cloud, so you have to just hear from me and it was absolutely lovely. 

My designer, Rebecca, really took my dress to a different level, some where I didn’t dare go but now that I was walking in the gown, I knew it was what I wanted. Dramatic yet so classic. Vintage yet not old-fashioned. It was a dress that just doesn’t go out of style. Silhouette may cost the most (after the dinner reception) in my wedding budget but it was well worth every penny. Even the seamtress aunty was amazingly talented.. Silhouette Brides are exclusive and special. 

I still need to drop a dress size for it to fit perfectly, my tummy is still a cause for concern especially with a tight mermaid cut, but overall, it looks 90% like my dream dress “Lissome by Ines Di Santos

20th May is my next fitting! 

Below is an extract from a post in Huffington from an award winning photographer, it’s not long but it is written so beautifully that it really makes me stand back think about wedding planning.. :

As I think back on the hundred-plus weddings I’ve photographed, I want to emphasize this:
Every wedding is perfect.


I love a good party.
I love a bride in the most elaborate, fancy, princess-y dress you’ve ever dreamed of.

I love custom chuppahs and embroidered aisle runners and matchy-matchy bridesmaids dresses.
I love to photograph flowers and shoes.


But you know why I REALLY do what I do?

To photograph your parents, who will hold hands and cry on the first row of the chapel. To photograph your sister dancing with that boy she will marry in three years. To photograph those kids who will grow up so, so quickly. To photograph your grandfather, who will pass away next spring. To photograph your first kiss as a married couple, your best friend busting out her signature dance moves, the flower girl asleep under a table, and maybe even your ex looking pretty wistful as he hugs you a little too long in the receiving line.


You already know: your cake will disappear in less than an hour, your flowers will wilt before the ceremony ends, and that uncomfortable tux will go back to the rental place in the morning. But those photos… they’re gonna be there forever. You’ll have them when your own kids are born, when you have the biggest fight ever with your partner and need to be reminded of how much you really love each other, when your parents pass away and you realize the last time you danced with them was at your wedding…


So, nothing against the wedding magazines and blogs and their endless, passionate quest for “perfect” detail shots. PLEASE: throw the party of your lives with every. single. detail. EXACTLY as you dreamed it would be.

But my job — MY job — is to see past all that. My job is to give you photos that will remind you why you had that damn expensive party in the first place.


If you’re planning your wedding right now, please just close the magazine. Log out of Pinterest. And look at the person you want to grow old with. Remind yourself of why you’re doing this. And really CELEBRATE when that day comes. Don’t stress about your shoes or your cake or your flowers. Don’t stress about anything. When it’s all over, you will be married, and surrounded by the people who know you and love you most in the whole wide world.


I promise: that is the Perfect Wedding.

Anne Almasay via the Huffington Post

Great read I hope.



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Fresh Cut Flowers

I plan to DIY my bridemaids bouquet with real flowers maybe 1 or 2 days before the wedding. In hopes, of course, that it will stay fresh till the big day. So I recently went to Thomson’s nursery for their cheap and lovely fresh cut flowers.

I think the place I went to is under FarEastFlora but don’t take my word for it. It wasn’t hard spotting it, they have this GIANT sign outside saying “Fresh Cut Flowers” and although I knew this place existed, it was the first time I actually went to check it out.



There, in a room that drops to a temperature of 12 degrees celcius (so perfect in a blistering hot day) were rows and rows of flowers of every kind. Roses, hygrangeas, eustomas, tulips, orchids, daisys, chrysanthemums, lilies, baby’s breaths, all kinds of filler flowers and ferns. It was my playground of sights and smells.

They sell many of these flowers in bulk so as the offer them cheaper. Market rate for roses are 80 cents to 1 dollar a stalk., but indian roses here are selling at 20 stalks for $11.50!




I actually planned for a simple bouquet made out completely with baby’s breathe only for all of my bridesmaids but after seeing all the beautiful flowers, temptation gets the better of me and suddenly I want to use every flower in the world.

I think I’ll use the flowers used in my bouquet and just make a smaller version for them. Using ivory indian roses, eustomas and instead of peonies, I’ll use phoenix chrysanthemums which give a very similar effect.


Using some flowers I had at home, I tried to create my own hand bouquet.
1) I prepped each flower by removing all thorns and leaves.
2) Cut the stems at a 45 degree angle
3) Start building your bouquet. Place the biggest rose or flower in the middle and keep building around it until you are happy with the size and fullness.
4) Wrap with a rubber band or floral tape if you have.
5) Wrap with satin ribbon and pin the ribbons in.


I watched this few tutorials on youtube before attempting it..
Bloomsbythebox 1 
Bloomsbythebox 2 

What do you think? Any of you DIY bouquet brides have any advise for me? 🙂

Tonight is my 3rd fitting! Going with my sis Mella. Wish us luck all goes well…

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